Don’t ignore your love at 15

The basic human design is to feel a sense of accomplishment. Pursuing a hobby is the easiest and most effective way to achieve that.

There were about thirty people in the room. I asked, ‘Tell me one thing about yourself that many people do not know.’ The answers started coming: ‘I used to collect coins’, ‘I was a debater in school’, ‘I represented my district in badminton’, and so on. One by one, they shared pieces of their past—hobbies, talents, and achievements they had quietly left behind.

Then I asked a follow-up question: ‘Why are you not continuing this?’ There was complete silence. Then slowly, the answers came: ‘I became very busy’, ‘No time’, ‘The rat race, you know’.

WHY HOBBIES MATTER

As human beings, we are designed to feel accomplished. We need to feel we have achieved something. That is basic human design. But here’s the problem: when people cannot feel a sense of accomplishment in healthy ways, they sometimes seek attention through negative behaviour.

That’s the difficult truth. But here’s the encouraging part: hobbies give you a positive sense of accomplishment. When you set a personal goal— learn a song on the guitar, run a 5,000-metre race, or solve a Rubik’s Cube in under two minutes—and you achieve it, you feel fulfilled. Because you chose it, and you cracked it.

HOBBIES DO

45, I decided to learn tennis. When I showed up, everyone else was in their teens. I was the only adult. That itself was an experience. But when I was on that court, I didn’t think about work problems. I didn’t worry about deadlines, emails, or difficult conversations. Those thoughts disappeared.

That’s what hobbies do. They pull you completely into the present. I’ve seen this with friends, too. Some of them started by joining a running club a few years ago. Today, they’re running marathons. It has become part of who they are.

Life will throw challenges at you all the time. Problems don’t stop coming just because you’re busy or tired. But when you have a hobby, you have a cushion—something that grounds you and reminds you that there’s more to life than the problem in front of you right now.

THE PROFESSIONAL TRAP

Many people think accomplishment should come from their profession. Sometimes it does. But for many, professional work can become mundane. You’re doing it for the monthly pay. So, there’s a possibility that you won’t feel a sense of engagement or accomplishment. But in the case of a personal hobby, you decide what you want to do. Interest comes automatically. Control comes naturally. And accomplishment becomes real.

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