The Life Between Buttons

Who doesn’t love a holiday? We save for it, plan for it, and carry a small hunger for it all year.

While packing for a trip, we may forget medicines or first aid, but never the camera. And with the camera comes a certain hunger, not for the adventure itself, but for something to carry back, to flaunt, to return to later.

The camera button seduces us into believing that capturing the moment is the same as living it.

I have watched myself click the camera at a laughing child, at a steaming meal, and even at a sky doing something unrepeatable. In each case, pressing the button was the end of the experience, not the preservation of it. We call them memories. But they are, more accurately, nostalgic tchotchkes. Proof that we were present, collected at the precise moment we stopped being so. Even with all the comforts around us, there are days when life feels strangely half-lived. Even the best of us drift now and then, moving through life as if we are watching it from a little distance.

Vishwamithra’s Penance

Our mythology has its own version of this. Sage Vishwamitra traded his kingdom for a life of fierce, unrelenting tapas. He was getting dangerously close to becoming a Raja Rishi, a sage-king of such power that even the gods grew nervous. So Indra intervened, not with force, but with something far more effective. He sent the celestial being Menaka. She arrived quietly, as the best diversions always do, and what followed was not a seduction so much as a substitution. A constructed world, warm and convincing, replaced the real one. Years dissolved as Vishwamitra drifted into the charm of Menaka.

When he finally stirred, he understood something that no tapas had yet taught him: the most sophisticated captivity is the kind you choose willingly, because it feels like living. The simulation economy is, in this sense, ancient. Only the algorithms are new.

Living Others’ Lives

Which brings me to another button I know rather well, the scroll, or its ancestor, the channel button. There is a peculiar feeling that comes with switching through channels on the television: entering lives, moving through stories, attending weddings and funerals of people who do not exist.

We spend more time with fictional characters than with the real people next door. Do you remember the hours spent watching people debate how the Avengers might defeat Thanos and undo the snap? It is not the fantasy that surprises me. It is the collective time that disappears into it. Cal Newport, writing about our current attention economy, observed that deep, focused work is becoming rarer just when it has become more valuable.

Vishwamitra’s tapas was, in that sense, the original deep work. And Indra knew exactly which button to press to interrupt it. Each of us carries, somewhere, a version of that unfinished tapas, a craft slowly being built, a thought slowly taking shape, a life slowly being lived on its own terms. The scroll does not take it from us loudly. It simply makes the Raja Rishi inside us a little harder to reach, one episode at a time.

Hitting Pause

Which is why I have lately begun to think that the most important button may not be the one that promises more — more memories, more stories, more purchases — but the one that interrupts them. The pause button has none of the glamour of the others. It does not capture, extend, or transport. It merely returns you to yourself. To the room you are in. To the work waiting on the table. To the life, unfinished and unspectacular, that does not ask to be watched before it can be lived. Perhaps that is why it is the button we press least. There is no thrill in it, only the quiet chance to notice what has been passing by while the algorithms, as always, did their work.

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